The humankind have invented efficient birthcontrol methods much earlier than they can at least talk politely about the family planning issues - see below. Luckily, people started riding animals much earlier, and, although the more sophisticated transport kills them sometimes, they have made themselves much more comfortable with it and invented many funny rules about it. To say, bringing Klavka to a play group I can claim for two bus tickets. I have to (!) stay at the club for at least an hour to get them. Baobeir is "excited" about the real socialism, however he doesn't mind to receive these tickets from me to use them when we go to shopping malls and other cultural monuments of the Steel City.
I am often asked if Claudiuccia is my first and only child, and are we planning to have more children. Sometimes I think I have to refuse to answer these questions, but then decide that, since my work is with people, I have to know what is on their minds. Once at the play group I've spoke with a girl from XXXX. The same question. I reply telling one of a few reasons to have more children later, "My health conditions don't allow me to have a healthy child right now, but when my health improves, we'll have a child in a few years." My minor provocation worked 100, no, 1000 %. "What does your husband say about that?" The words behind that were like, "did he already advertise a job opening, calling for female candidates bringing in their medical files instead of resumes?"
An exchange of questions:
- What would you think he says?
- What does he think? (The previous question is rephrased as if I hadn't get it)
- He says nothing. That's not a problem. We are still young.
The dialog stopped at this point. Recalling it I was astonished by such a simple fact that we are young indeed, and I still have about 17 (!) years of fertility. How many decisions can be made in these 17 years!
When I was asked the same question by the other lady and told her that I still can wait, she said: "But Claudia will grow up, kids won't have fun playing together..." I wanted to ask her if I have to buy Klavka a Baby Born TM?
Luckily, in 5 months I didn't hear comments on a "right" age for becoming a mother, thanks for that. Or perhaps I look older?!